Did you know the Bible is the only book in the world that has the answer to the problem of sin? The primary way to deal with sin is to recognize sin for what it is. We have a generation today that does not even like the word sin. The word sin is out of […]
FEAR!FEAR! This is a term that you have heard more than often,in your lectures,your spiritual gathering or amongst your peers.I would say that it is an unpleasant feeling in your gut that hinders you from taking a certain step or move,deeply engrossed in thoughts of how the other party would think you,or rather the treatment you […]
FEAR!FEAR! This is a term that you have heard more than often,in your lectures,your spiritual gathering or amongst your peers.I would say that it is an unpleasant feeling in your gut that hinders you from taking a certain step or move,deeply engrossed in thoughts of how the other party would think you,or rather the treatment you would receive from them.
Many are the times we have found ourselves in such a situation,maybe twice or thrice. Making of presumptions is an inner killer of self-confidence,self-esteem and leads to an emotional frail. Sleepless nights ,of thoughts deeply engrossing an individual ,presumptions and indecisiveness are spent.
Change of Behavior,Character and Mannerism is a personal decision,if I may so say and comes from within unconditionally.Vividly do I recall how tears flooded my cheeks as I sat on my bed,in my hostel room,which I shared with two others,who by coincidence,were my closest friends.This was right after the night dance which was commonly known as ”disco” ,having spent the whole night dancing,drinking,and I mean drinking beer and alcohol,smoking and doing lots of crazy staff that any college person would do to explore the freedom.
Freedom!Had I not always longed for this freedom?With no parents around to monitor my every step and move,exploring this new environment with much enthusiasm and care-free attitude?Well,perhaps,but this amounted to nothing else but self-destruction,from outside one would take me for a “strong” person,yet emotional torture was taking toll on my well being.Within the first two weeks I already had five close friends,two of whom were my roommates,our outgoing mannerism and explorive nature is what bonded us,little did I know it was a hot soup in a boiling pot,which I was getting into.
”OLD FASHIONED,OUTDATED”were the terms commonly used by we,despising anyone who came along our way,having lower standards,or if I may call them mannerisms,which were not pleasing at all.Sooner than I expected,I had explored all types of beers,cigars and even dancing styles,many hook ups with guys,of which most of them ended up in a ‘‘one night stand”.Academics was just a stumbling block to my freedom,rarely did I attend lectures or practicals.Fame is really what mattered to me,freedom, freedom.
FEAR OF CHANGE!Deep regrets,tears of pain and sorrow,as I sobbed uncontrollably.Having wasted a whooping one year in college,with nothing but poor grades to show off,I felt like a loser,indeed I already was!”Its never too late to change”,my mums words,but presumptions of my friends reactions towards my change really got into my nerves.The fear of rejection and loneliness,I was sure as hell that I would stop being one of them.Definitely a replacement had to be found. Fear of change!
OVERCOMING THE FEAR.It’s now or never!With deep convictions that this was the change I needed,feeling much stronger,as coincidentally it was on a Sunday morning, I went outside and could hear praise and worship songs from the college church.A thing I had never thought of,I courageously walked towards the church,found a seat at the back,thoughts deeply engrossed my mind throughout the sermon as tears welled up all through.An altar call was made and this was the break through of my life,accepting Jesus Christ as my personal Savior,a burden was offloaded my shoulders and my heart-felt as kind of peace I had never felt before,until now,i feel the same.
JESUS CHRIST FORGIVES AND RESTORES.As it is written in1 John 1:9 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.This is very true,surely if you truly confess your sins before Him being honest,he is merciful enough to forgive and restore you.
DONT WORRY ABOUT WHAT OTHERS THINK OF YOUR PAST.The past is the past,the person you are now,is never the person you were yesterday!Jesus Christ washes away all the sins,if you keep focusing and regretting about your past life,you will end up in self destruction.Forget the former things!and see the new things!
PSALMS 23:1 The lord is my shepherd,I Shall not want. In all your ways trust in the Lord and acknowledge him everything that you do.He will give you a new strength and peace that you have never heard before..
Finally Always Pray…greatest battles are worn by prayers.NEVER BE AFRAID OF CHANGE!JESUS CHRIST IS THE WAY!
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Trauma has taken toll not only
On my mental health but also physical well being
As the images of those black hands
Blood shot eyes
Rusty smell all over the room
Flash in my mind
Vividly do I recall him ripping off my garments
Firm grip on my throat and
I gasping for air
For my dear life
My innocence he takes away
The innocence I had so preserved for 25 years
And off he flees!
Tears of pain,confusion,hurt
Is all I could afford
Is all I can still afford
Trauma of rape
Has taken its toll on me.
Death!Many people tremble at the mention of this name.It is something that most people would opt not to talk at all about.Many have been left with scars to heal over years,pain,suffering and trauma through the loss of their loved ones,relatives,close friends or even a neighbor.
Some people have ended up committing suicide as a result of death trauma.Truly,death is painful,losing a soul is very hurting but all in all life still continues.There is a bright future,great hopes and achievements.
As I stood on the balcony of our house 15 years ago,shortly after laying my father to rest.The balcony overlooked our backyard,and the moonlight glinted off my father’s grave,who was the bread-winner of our family.My mother had spent all her years as a housewife while my father was in the corporate world as a bank manager.I sobbed uncontrollably with much pain in my heart,questions of why and what were all over my mind.I thought that our life was over,no more education,no more living ,no more food ,no more clothing since our bread-winner was gone.
This pain engulfed me for many years that my performance in school really deteriorated. Not only was my physical state at stake but also my mental state.Something had to be done as soon as possible!Now as we speak am as sober and healthy though i do miss my father very much but I have moved on very confidently.
BELOW ARE SOME STEPS TO HELP YOU MOVE ON AND ENCOURAGE YOU AFTER LOSING A LOVED ONE:
STEP ONE:EXPRESS YOUR EMOTIONS OUT
Expressing your emotions out means crying,running,lamenting,calling out the names of the deceased or just doing anything that is not extreme or harmful to you after receiving the news that the person is no more.Most people do cry a lot especially for ladies while others just go numb.Being quiet is very dangerous!!At least try to speak to someone or to murmur some few things.This is because it helps to relieve the pain and hurt through expressing your emotions.
I cried out calling my father’s name on that fateful day we got a call from hospital informing us of his death.My mother ran all around the compound crying,shouting and lamenting but it did help
STEP TWO:AT LEAST TRY TO ACCEPT THE TRUTH
Well,losing someone seems like a nightmare or a daydream,its hard to accept the truth that the person is no longer with us especially if the relationship was so mutual.
But all in all try to accept that the person is no more.To accept this,you need to relax a bit,take a glass of coffee or tea if available and let the inner voice say that the person is no more!Yes he is not coming back!Accepting is the hardest part of it.Try to open up to a close friend or a close relative about how you feel.
STEP THREE:HAVE SOMEONE CLOSE TO OPEN UP TO
You need a close friend or relative by you side. A person who is like a confidant,a person who you can open up to anytime and anyplace.Share your feelings with him or her.Seek for advice from them and listen to their opinions too.We all need a shoulder to lean on when in distress.
STEP FOUR:SEEK GODS STRENGTH BY PRAYING
Many are the times we do question God asking Him Why?We lament and lament forgetting that He is the giver of life and that everything is in His control.
First seek God through praying.Tell God to give you new strength to win this battle and to fill you with courage.Everything happens with a purpose no matter how painful it is.Let God make a way for you.You only need to have patience no matter how long it takes.But God will always manifest Himself in the absence of the deceased person.
FINALLY,I KNOW DEATH IS SO PAINFUL BUT WE NEED TO TRY TO MOVE ON WITH LIFE THROUGH GODS GUIDANCE.IT IS HARD YES,BUT IT IS BETTER TO TRY THAN NOT TO TRY AT ALL!
Most people in my age group do not like talking about religion. We mostly feel that if we do we will face some kind of rejection from our peers. My take on this is you should not be ashamed of what you believe in. Being a Christian means preparing for war. Here is what […]
Behind every smile is some pain behind,Smile as they say avoids problems but I say smile solves problems.A thousand feelings are hidden in that smile.
The simple smile your from your secretary that will set you for the day.
The smile from girl-next door that leaves your heart longing for more.
The smile from your aged mother with wrinkled face that gives you more hopes.
That smile from your kid that gives you joy of a parent
Its behind the smile that you find strong personalities.People who have passed through pain,persecution,rejection,crisis But they chose to always put a smile.
A SIMPLE SMILE.Walk into their shoes and you will realize the Magic of a smile.
Positivism?What is it?
It is that moment you wake up,look into the mirror and say”I have to change for the better.”Definitely we all have flaws,that moment you messed up somewhere,that thing you did that got you so embarrassed,you hardly had the courage to face people.But well,nobody is perfect as far as I know.
First you have to stop wailing,sobbing and regretting no matter what you did!Accept the mistake.Yes!I was wrong!Finally make a decision never to go back to the old ways. Surround yourself with positive people.Avoid criticisms,negativity and gossipers at all cost.
Make a move,make a change,be strong,be courageous.
Its a decision to forgive,
But its a choice to forget,letting go the hurt and pain is not as easy,
With much sorrows,tears and deep regrets,
Forgiving relieves off a burden,
A burden off your heart and mind
It is for your own benefit.For your own health.
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